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I read this at the exact moment a good friend was reminding me that I need to take care of myself first. And she is right. It has taken me forever to realize that I put someoneĀ else’s feelings and needs before my own. I have used the excuse that when you are in love that this is just what you do. But how much of yourself do you give away without getting what you truly want in return?

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Someone once told me that with each new season you should write a new set of goals so I always do. And surprisingly, I follow this list,
usually without intention. But today I read the list I created for summer and I haven’t done shit. This summer has been a sucky, bunkass, depressing time. Fuck this summer!

But, whatever.

With each new season comes a new experience. Going into fall I will have to say my goals are as follows:

1) Get enough sleep.

2) Drink plenty of water.

3) Do not leave the city with an empty tank of gas.

4) Do whatever it takes to be focused and disciplined. In other words, no distractions.

5) Stop being so hard on yourself and love yourself the way you love others.

All seems so basic, but trust me, life gets complicated. It is easy to forget to do what should feel so simple.

“Truth is, everybody will be feeling shitty at some point in their lives. Sometimes you just have to suck it up, and keep moving forward.” -Unknown

I am grieving the end of a relationship that means a great deal to me and it hurts so fucking bad. Even if it makes logical sense in my head, my heart is totally broken. It’s weird. The mornings seem to be the hardest. But interestingly enough I was going through some writing samples and found a piece from 2011. It was about an “ex” and after reading a few sentences it made me throw up. Like for real throw up. So despite what I am going through now, I have come a long way and I am grateful for that. I appreciate this pain because it is real. A piece of my heart is not just missing, it has died. And I am grieving that death. To have loved someone so much that a part of you feels dead when they are gone is oddly a gift. Even if it hurts so much it just compounds everything else; makes you hate your hair, makes you want to shop, makes you think everything sucks. It’s so stupid. But it’s love. And that’s life. And that’s just wonderful.

“So I placed my heart under lock and key. To take some time, and take care of me. But I turn around and you’re standing here.”

Facebook is interesting. It truly reconnects you to your past and makes you reflect; a platform to remind you of many things including your first heartbreak. The one that was gut-wrenching and devastating and completely changed who you were as a person. The one that made you think you would be alone forever because you didn’t believe in love anymore. And somehow 10 years go by and you look back and realize the person you were once closest to is someone you don’t even know anymore and probably wouldn’t even recognize on the street and you consider yourself ridiculously lucky that the life you are seeing while snooping around on that Facebook page isn’t the life you are leading today. It makes you feel good about the desperation you showed when you tried to force it to work yet they didn’t want you anymore and it makes you appreciate the fact that it took a really long time to recover from the rejection of it all. Never in a million years did I think I would be happy for the fucker or tremendously grateful for the pain he caused or the wisdom I gained from the experience. In other words, life really does go on. You do get over it and love, incredibly, mind-blowing, can’t be without each other, I love you forever, soulmate love, does come around again. Which makes you appreciate the shit even more.

“But there’s a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your face. Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories is always your mother’s story, because hers is where yours begins.” -Mitch Albom

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Someone said to me recently that taking time off from work to go to school is like taking a break. I haven’t stopped thinking about this statement since because is it really? And if it is truly a break, am I making the most of it? And why am I so exhausted? If you are on break, shouldn’t you be glowing and smiling and exhilarated (like how I was while I was in France) and not pale, miserable and falling asleep the moment you sit down?

I honestly do not know what it is about business school that knocks you so flat on your ass. I have worked a lot of hours over the years and nothing quite compares to this. I have never been more tired. The kind of tired where you come home and cry a little. The other day I was so tired I turned down a one way street into oncoming traffic. I have never done this before, ever. As a matter of fact, I have made fun of people who have. This definitely wasn’t funny. I was so tired I felt drunk.

And so here we are… I’ve officially reached that point again in the semester where I am wondering what I am doing; questioning everything, researching different business schools, feeling lonely, feeling unhappy, feeling restless and bored, anxious, and in desperate need of a break. It’s like clockwork. The meltdowns are timely and inevitable and I am sick of it.

I told my academic advisor that I want to pack it all up and move to Europe. Then I repeated that same sentence to two more people. So why am I not actually doing this? Why not make the most of this “break”? Here is what I am pondering at the moment; how can I keep my flat, stay in school, but leave the country for six months? Can’t a girl just have it all? There has to be a way to make this work. Or, why not just pack it all up and leave? I didn’t even want to return to the States in the first place. What am I holding on to? What the hell am I so afraid of?

What I am afraid of is that I won’t have an opportunity to do something like this again. I hate not knowing what I am doing. A lot of thoughts going through my head right now, that’s for sure. This is definitely an interesting time in my life. The thing is, I have been wanting this for so long. Business school, that is. And I worked hard to get here. But now that I am here; now that I am “in-it”, I am questioning it. Why do I always do this? I just do not know how to sit still. I am not the kind of person who can thrive on routine, which has gotten me into trouble and has caused a lot of drama, so I should know better. But why not constantly question what you are doing? It is not being unappreciative of the things that you have, it is simply making sure you don’t allow life to just pass you on by. I don’t want life to just pass me on by. I have enough regrets.

“Cuz everybody dies but not everybody lives.” – Drake

When I returned from France I couldn’t help but ask someone I met when I was 22, who still knows me pretty well, what I was like when I was 22. I was surprised and touched by the thoughtful, spot-on response; when I read it, I laughed and cried at the same time because as it turns out, this guy knew me better than I thought he had and well, not much has changed. I am still totally this version of myself; older and none the wiser.

Everyone should have that special person in their life that they’ve known forever; the one you’ve experienced a lot of firsts with, who has broken your heart a little, yet put up with you, stuck around through it all and doesn’t mind when you send them random messages asking to explain who the hell you were at a time you didn’t know who the hell you were. Thanks, MT!

“What were you like at 22, shit have we known each other that long? Fuck, I don’t know if I remember all that well. You were a bit of drama, not too much with me though. You were always pretty down to hang out and have fun, and just go with the flow from what I can remember. You liked to party, liked your friends, always were working hard, and doing something with school and work, and shit. But you were very directionless, kind of lost. You didn’t know where to go, and you didn’t have the balls to go there once you figured out where you did want to go. You were emotional, scared, and needy at times. You weren’t any different than anyone else in that regard though, not at 22. Thats for sure. What else? You were always searching, looking, for what I am not sure, but you were. You were a deep thinker, a believer in the world, in people, in possibilities. You were still healing from the ex-boyfriend. You had trouble reconciling your relationships with your family. All that is pretty much what I remember. Also, always had a good heart, did more for others, and got burnt a bit too much by others for doing so. Always drama with the girlfriends, I do remember that. Haha! Does my recap of you at 22 sound pretty accurate?”

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